As a Christian mother of four, devoted wife, and part-time at-home saleswoman, my life is pretty full as you can imagine. I seldom have time to think, let alone “get out there” and “do things.” My friends have stopped inviting me to parties because I am never able to go, and consequently I have become fairly isolated and lonely.
Recently my neighbor, a male in his early 30′s (YOUNGER THAN ME, let’s just say LOL) started making advances towards me. Obviously as a Christian I am unable to reciprocate, but it has made me realize what I’m missing out there, and frankly missing in my own marriage, which at this point lacks any physical intimacy or romance. I know it is wrong to encourage my neighbor, but I find myself doing it anyway…what can I do to stop what appears to be a downward spiral into divorce?
- Name withheld
Holy crow, this is my first advice article. I was sort of hoping for something simpler. Are you sure this is a problem? I mean is it something that bothers you? No, obviously it does or you wouldn’t write.
I imagine it must be nice to be approached by a younger man. Hey, maybe he’s not really approaching you at all. Maybe it’s…you know. In your head.
But assuming it’s not, I mean, we’re both Christians, aren’t we? And I think we both know what the answer is here: you have to stick with your husband until one of you dies. It’s not the most fun-sounding course of action but a promise is a promise, and you made one, so.
Maybe if the one that dies isn’t you, you can go horse around with this neighbor! If he’s still around or whatever.
Anyway, you seem like a nice lady. Consider this a test from God, and then I bet you’ll feel better about turning this neighbor of yours down.